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What the heck is this? Pretty ridiculous. What a waste of time just to spread negativity.
Heed this warning yuo Twitter Heads. We are reading.
I truly believe that this is a great opportunity for education to you, your wife, and the community at large. There were a lot of assumptions made about this situation and the person involved…assumptions about the reason a seat would be left up, the “type of person” who would leave a seat up, their gender, their sexual orientation, their appearance, as well as their level of “masculine/feminine” characteristics. First of all there are an infinite number of reasons a seat might be left up in a “dirty” public restroom. There is also an infinite range of gender expression with people from masculine to feminine. I would venture to say that even your wife might feel more feminine on a particular day or if she is wearing a particular outfit/makeup than another.
That said, if what your comment was really getting at was, that your wife thought this person might have been a Transgender woman, then there are many other issues to discuss. Transgender people as well as people who don’t fit society’s mold of gender expression often have challenges living in general. They are bullied in schools, decimated in housing and employment, rejected by their families and communities of faith, and even murdered, let alone the realities of how challenging going into a simple public restroom must be for someone who doesn’t fit your image of what “looks right”.
This is an opportunity for some compassion and understanding on your part. Something to think about next time someone says to you “act like a man” or “that’s gay”.
While I am not a fan of Twitter, give Rollin a break ... it's supposed to be about passing along mindless anecdotes about what happens to someone during the day.
Don't ascribe homophobic intentions to this social network phenom.
Heed this warning you Twitter Heads. We are reading.
AND we are making horrible assumptions.
He posts a homophobic remark to his own public forum and we're supposed to just laugh it off as some sort of “mindless anecdote.” I don't know who is more sad, the person who would post such a remark or the enabler who advises us to ignore hate-mongering.
First of all, so the woman left the seat up? Perhaps the woman was ill.
And if not, she may have been a transgender woman. I am a transgender woman. While I find Rollin Trehearne's comment offensive, reprehensible, and decidedly transphobic as it stands, I also see it as a show of ignorance about transgender people.
Comments like the one made by Rollin Trehearne perpetuate a negative image of transgender individuals and the transgender community as a whole. We (transgender individuals), like Rollin Trehearne at Big Red and his wife, want to simply live our lives. This includes working, loving our families, having lunch with family or friends, and yes, using the gender appropriate bathroom. In peace.
Sadly, we find ourselves the object of ridicule, discrimination, violence and murder.
A transgender individual is 16 times more likely to be murdered than the general population. Simply for being who we are.
A recent survey of the economic health of the transgender community in California was conducted by the Transgender Law Center. The resulting statistics are appalling.
Transgender individuals have an unemployment rate that is twice the stare rate, yet are twice as likely to have a college degree. Almost one-quarter of the transgender community reports having utilized the street economy (e.g. survival sex work). Almost half of the respondents report loss of employment and workplace discrimination. Basic health care is often denied by insurance companies (for those that are lucky enough to have insurance).
More information can be found at the Transgender Law Center web site:
Again, the woman in question may or may not have been transgender. Regardless of this fact, why should anyone be denied use of a restroom based on the way they look or dress? It seems to me that the woman mentioned used the restroom and left. Just like Rollin Trehearne's wife. Just like anyone else.
So what's the problem Mr. & Mrs Trehearne?
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