Safe at Any Speed



According to that studious set at Stanford, it takes just four minutes for single men and women meeting for the first time to decide whether or not they click. Huh? According to a Stanford study published May 2013, researchers scrutinized the interactions of 1,000 speed daters and determined that in four minutes, people have enough info about each other to know whether they'd like to spend more time together, or if they'd rather speed on.

Are you lookin', interested in meeting new peeps, or possibly a new partner? Well, on Friday, June 21, you'll have your chance to do some speed dating, maybe even a little research of your own. Safer Sex Humboldt presents Quickies! Speed Dating for All! for date seekers 18 and older, "for all relationship styles, sexualities and gender identities."

That Stanford study uncovered even more about four minute date-type interactions. Ready? Before racing off to speed date, consider these points: Both genders reported "clicking" or connecting when the conversation was mainly about the woman. So, hetero guys, focus on the lady, engage her, make her the center of your interaction. Get it? Also, whether man or woman, don't ask too many questions. Why? Women don't click when they have to ask questions, nor when men ask them question after question. Women reported feeling like they had to do all the work to keep the conversation going if they mostly asked questions. Women also felt that men who asked too many questions really had nothing to say. Huh.

So, how many questions are too many? Are these research findings similar for gay and lesbian speed daters? What can you learn in four minutes? Get out there, speed date, do your research and get back to us! Things get going at 7:30 p.m, at Old Town Coffee and Chocolates, 211 F St., Eureka. $5 to pre-register or $10 at the door. To register, email [email protected], or find the safe sex folks on Facebook at

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